Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

My hair is long, about right in between my shoulder and elbow. i have been wanting to cut my hair to just above my shoulders. my boyfriend of 1 year said he doesnt like short hair but i really want it. i dont know if i should cut it or not, cuz i dont know if i should take into cosideration of what he thinks (cuz i would hope he wouldnt do anything i didnt want him to do) OR do what I think is best for me because its MY hair that i have to style in the morning. im confused....

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

If you really, really want to please your man, then do as he says. I, for one, wouldn't give a damn. I take it you're under 20? If so, boys come and go. Shoulder-length hair isn't that short at all and it's still very feminine. There's plenty of guys who would find a girl with shoulder-length hair really sexy.

I guess it really depends on how close you are to your boyfriend and how much you want to please him. If you're certain he's your soul-mate or something, I'd probably give his words some weight. But then again, if you're that close with him, it wouldn't make a difference how long your hair was, because he'd still love you...

So I guess my answer is: if he's just a boyfriend, cut your hair. Screw him. If you guys are the loves of each other's lives, though, it's 50/50... you can go either way. It probably won't make a difference. Leave your hair long and he'll be happy... or cut it and he'll get over it and be happy anyway... see what I'm saying?

Edit: I see, you guys are serious about each other. Well, a haircut is a very trivial thing. Why would you be afraid of him doing something you wouldn't want him to do? The worst that should happen is he would cut his hair too or start dressing in a style that you dislike or something. Again, trivial stuff, not important. If you honestly have a fear of him doing something more serious just because you cut your hair, that's not a good sign! No good boyfriend would do something terrible (cheating, etc.) just because your hair is shorter. If he would, he's SO not worth it. And I seriously doubt that this is the case. Ease your fears, take it easy! Guys aren't THAT vengeful. No matter what your decision is, it'll be fine! He'll adapt to it, I promise.

I remember when my first husband cut his hair. I was 18 as well. I'd made him swear never to cut it off (because a buzz cut made him look like a chipmunk - he has a really wide face), and he swore he wouldn't... but NO, he went behind my back and cut it one day anyway, and I just got so angry that I cut super-short bangs into my hair, dyed only the bangs orange (the rest of my hair was dyed black), and shaved my eyebrows off! (true story!!) Nothing more than that; I made myself ugly because he'd made himself ugly... both of our hairs grew back eventually and we were none the worse for it... we still loved each other. Good times, good times :-D...

You know, I agree with some of the other posters; a compromise really is the easiest thing. Maybe cut just a few inches off so your hair will still be long, but more comfortable and easier to style. But whatever you decide, please do not feel pressured because you're afraid of what your boyfriend might do. That just isn't a sign of a healthy relationship, I'd think!

Best of luck to you!

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

go for it,why let an idiot man tell you what to do?

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

why dont you get a bob or ask him to suggest an appropiate length to which yous both agree to

even if it is at your neck it will keep him with you and im sure you love your boy friend more than your hair im sure just try to comprimise

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

yes, sure

if u want to change ur look and cut ur hair, why not?

u are staying with it like this not your bf!

do what u want... is YOUR hair not his...

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

My advice would be to talk to him instead of trying to second-guess him. People say they like all kinds of things, don't want their partner to do this or that, etc. etc. Now, IF it were just because of your personal tastes that you want to change hairstyle it would be fair to give (almost) equal weight to the views of your significant other half. But as it is... tell him that it's a hassle for you to have to groom the long hair every day; tell him it keeps getting in the way and could be dangerous; tell him it's too hot in the summer. If he loves you he'll not want you to go through a lot of trouble just for his visual pleasure.

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

well really it is up 2 u..u shud take in2 consideration his opinion but remember its up 2 u not him its ur hair not his!! and he wont do anything if he really lyks u rite?!? kk but i seriouly think that if u wanna cut ur hair then go 4 it! vyaz :)

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

Do what YOU want to do. Just because he doesn't like short hair, it shouldn't keep you from cutting it. It's YOUR hair, not his. You should do whatever you want to your own hair. He shouldn't be making decisions for you. And who knows...maybe he will like your new hair cut. :-)

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

You shouldnt let him make the desision for you, its your hair and do what you think will look the best he will get use to it and it can always grow back

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

although i dont agree with anjbingo saying that men are idiots, she does otherwise tell the truth, its your hair go for it

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

its your hair...do as you wish

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

yes u should go for. Remember he is ur boyfriend he loves u and love is for soul not for hair. definately u respect him but its something personal and in this matter u should listen ur wish not his.

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

Hi! The first thing that crossed my mind when I start reading your question was ,why wouldn`t this girl cut her hair,what`s the problem? Than I read your whole letter and realized that you love your boyfriend,who doesn`t agree with this,and that it would be best for you if he`s also going to like your new hair. I was in the same position. Didn`t know what to do. I really wanted new haircut,but my boyfriend wasn`t thrilled.Then I spoke to him,and I told him how much I wanted it. He agreed with me,because he liked ME. And my hair grew up again. If your boyfriend loves YOU,than he will realize that your hair can always grow.

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

never do that.

hair is one of the best part of beauty,

which would always keep him attracted 2 u

so always keep ur bf tips.

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

if u want to cut it, then cut it! u shouldn't care what your bf tells you to do... i mean, do u always want to be following whatever he tells you to do?! it's just a damn hair, it grows back anyways!

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

Its your hair and you life. My boyfriend doesn't like my piercings, but he went when I got them, encouraged me to do what I want with my body and he still says I'm beautiful.

He's obviously not digging you that much if he's insisting apon your looks rather than allowing and encouraging you to make your own decisions, especially going so far as to say he 'hates' short hair. That's just moronic.

Go cut it!

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

hi i know im a lil bit late on answering ur question..

listen u guys can compromise, agree to a length that u both are happy with..

in my opinion i think u should not cut ur hair, one thing i know is that the beauty of a girl liass on her hair...

but if u really want this so talk to him and tell him that u cant stand ur hair anymore and u really want to change it..so compromise and cut it in a way u both are happy...

good luck

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

yes because your boyfriend can't control you

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

tell ur boyfriend to cut ur hair with a pair of scissors and things needed for cutting hair and tell him that if u dont want me to get a short haircut then u can cut my hair the way u like it.

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

I think that it is a good idea that you get your boyfriends opinion, but I think in the end you should make your own decision. Maybe you should just get it done anyway because I don't think that length is that short. It could be alot shorter. He might like it he just has to see it on you, just remind him that your hair will grow back. Hope this helped!

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

if you want to cut your hair do it, don't not do it just because he doesn't want you to

long hair is hard to mantain and its hard to style so id say get it cut

Should i cut my hair, even if my boyfriend doesnt want me to?

A man to keep, is certainly not one who gives you a crap load of trouble for wanting to simply cut your hair. Just cut it. If he respects you as much as you think, he'll get over it.